Round two

Of potty training (can I get a woohoo 🎉 )

So I've received loads of messages re potty training Elaina and have decided to dedicate a post to explaining my 'tips', please keep in mind that these worked for me.

I did almost everything the same as what I did with my first Zayn. He was about 4 months shy of turning 3 and decided yep enough was enough. I decided this abit earlier this time with Elaina, as she was aware of her "actions" much earlier than Zayn was. E.g. Would tell me when she was about to poop, about to do a pee.. even tell me that "pee pee on the toilet". I never did the whole "show them so they can see" business, just wasn't comfortable with the idea, they know where it goes and soon enough they'd figure it out. Here are a few things I did..ok heaps 😅

1. I gave them notice. Yes I believe kids need notice, they shit bricks at the slightest hint of change therefore I had to psych them out. One week before, I'd reiterate (conversations throughout every day) that they were a "big boy", "big girl" and that it was time to buy undies so we can say bye bye to their nappies.

2. We went undies shopping. I let them choose which underwear packet they wanted (then I'd sneak the cheap six pack of disposables) .. helps build a sense of excitement.. and it did once they started wearing what they picked out.

3. I promised them a kalsoon (undies in Arabic) party. I promised them that now that they were doing their pee pee and poo in the toilet that we were going to have a big party just for them!! This was brought up every time they did a pee pee in the toilet with a big clap "yaaayyy party for xyz".. when they'd have an accident "oh no don't think you're ready for your party yet" straight motivation I tell you!

4. You cannot CONFUSE. If you are going to do this, do this right, don't let them spend a day in undies and the next in a nappy. Don't take them to the toilet once then say that's it's okay if they let it go in their nappy.. children don't do well with confusion or change so if you're going to change it up, it takes them a while to adjust hence the answer you get when you ask a gp how long it takes to toilet train a child, common answer "4-6 months" why ? Because they're going to have accidents, they're rewiring their little brains.. brains that never flinched when they'd let out a pee to say "hold it in till you get to a toilet".. so be patient but consistent. You need a good three days at home ( I'm on my second at the moment ).. on the third, their accident will most likely not reach the floor anymore (puddles) and more likely to let abit out and hold the rest.. so rush them to the toilet to finish it off..

5. REWARD REWARD REWARD.. gosh we underestimate how far it goes sometimes.. although I encourage them with a party that comes after a week or two, it's important to reward in the moment. "Yaaayyy big boy/girl" this means you can help Mummy do xyz" "yaaayyyy big boy/girl look what I got you !" (Had ordered a few books off eBay that came) (or anything you have stashed) even phone calls to family/friends in front of your child "HEY GUESS WHOS WEARING UNDIES AND DID A PEE PEE IN THE TOILEEETTTT?" (Their little faces will light up with pride)

6. REMIND REMIND REMIND they're not going to figure it out on their own for the first few weeks ( if they do earlier then you're bloody lucky!). Every 15 mins ask "do you need to use the toilet?".. every half an hour place them on it anyway.. even when they have an accident and have let it all out it's still important to place them on the toilet so it reiterates where it belongs.

7. FLLLUUUUIIIIDDDSSSSS.. spoil them rotten with flavoured milk, juicy fruits and pick up their water bottle every 10 mins and ask them to take a sip.. this will fill their bladder and give you abit more opportunity to play with..

8. I placed a nappy on at night time.. not after their shower but right before bed time.. "nappy for sleepy time".. it worked with my son and after 12 months he was nappy free.. he gradually worked towards being nappy free, as he got stronger with his bladder during the day, he became more aware at night.. so let that be a process ( again worked for me )

9. CARRY SPAREEESSSS no honestly if you're going to be out or at someone else's place, have a backpack filled with about 7 spare bottoms.. I promise the number will decrease each week !!

10. Remember not to get frustrated ( well at least try not to).. they're so little after all.. hell if I was used to somebody changing me for nearly 3 years I think it would take me 30 to snap out of it 😂.. I've added some pics of Zayns Undies Party 🎉



Who will?

Who will do what I do for you ? Will they know ? Will they know that you both like your crust cut off your butter and jam toast ? Will they know that you like strawberry flavoured milk only every second day ? Will they know the routine to the funny dance we do at the traffic light ? Will they know that you both get piggybacked to bed ? Will they know the song we sing "to zee bed to zee bed we go" ? Will they know you prefer green apples over red? Will they know not to bribe you with sweets but with broccoli ? Will they know you love broccoli? Will they know to tickle you right before it's lights out ? Because the sound of your laughs is the last thing I want to hear? Will they know to answer your questions fully and not dismiss you as a "child" because your mind craves more than just a limited response? Will they know to look at you while you're swimming because you'll be looking their way ? Will they know when I'm gone ? Because I'm not sure they will.. I'd like to think you'll remember, Id like to think you'll be loved, I know you will.. who couldn't.

Your mother